One Thing You Can’t Forget When Making Disciples

This year is off to a frenetic start. My schedule feels packed every day. I can’t wait to share my new eBook with you! But, getting it ready to launch has kept me maxed out. Through the process, I’ve been reminded of something important.


It’s frustrating when you have a heart to make disciples but too many things are vying for your time. There’s a temptation to create an “efficient” way to impact more people while giving them limited access to your life. 

If you’re a minister-type, like me, you might try something like creating a curriculum or a teaching series. It’s not a terrible idea. 

I’m a huge believer in the power of consistently communicating God’s word with passion and clarity. It should be a key piece to anyone’s ministry strategy. But… 

people learn to follow Jesus by watching other people closely as they follow Jesus.

I believe this is why Jesus choose twelve disciples and really focused on three during his ministry. He modeled something powerful for us.

Jesus impacted the many by focusing on a few.

In order to have the kind of ministry impact we all desire, people need access to our lives. Everyone doesn’t need the same level of access. But, we short circuit our impact when we don’t give people access to our lives.

Here’s one simple way you can give people access to your life…

1. Limit your alone time.

I’ve written about this one before. In fact, it’s in my free eBook 5 Discipleship Principles I Live By (Hint: Anyone Can Do These). By limiting the time you spend alone, you maximize your time with people. Simply invite people into the things you’re already doing.

Here are some ways I try to give people access to my life…

  • Invite someone to run an errand.
  • Invite people to travel with me.
  • Eat meals with people. You’re most likely going to eat three meals a day anyway.
  • We try to invite people into our home regularly.

As simple as these are, they’re easy to forget. One of my coworkers recently reminded me, “When you invite the staff over to your house, that’s a really good thing.” People need access to our lives — our real lives — in order to learn to follow Jesus.

There are definitely times when it’s appropriate, even Christlike, to be alone. “Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed” (Lk. 5:16). We all need alone time. There are times when I need to be alone for a few hours a day to recharge my batteries.

I hope you won’t feel guilty about needing to be alone. I don’t. However, I know there have been times when I’ve short circuited my impact by missing opportunities to give people access to my life.

If the goal is making disciples, people need access to our lives.

What have you been learning lately? I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment below.

  2 comments for “One Thing You Can’t Forget When Making Disciples

  1. Anonymous
    February 1, 2017 at 9:38 am

    These are great ways to strive to disciple others, that’s for sure, but you also need to remember that when you have a family, your first responsibility of discipleship is to them. The order of importance is this: 1) God – Spend time in prayer and in your Bible in order to build your relationship with Him. 2) Your spouse – You are heirs together of the grace of life (1 Peter 3:7), and you are responsible for making disciples of one another. 3) Your children- Children are a blessing, but this is the part that most of our generation forgets: God gives us instructions to train up our children (Proverbs 22:6, Deuteronomy 6:6-7), and each child is an eternal soul that you as a parent are responsible for! 4) Everyone else – Yes, it is important to make disciples, but this comes after we disciple those closest to home, those souls we have been given responsibility of by God.

    • Neil
      February 1, 2017 at 4:38 pm

      Good thoughts! Thanks for chiming in!

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