When Katie and I first found out our second child was going to be a boy, I got a little nervous. I’ve gotten used to having a little girl and I love it. I love the fact that she calls me “prince” from time to time. I love the fact that she wants to dance with me. I love the fact that she frequently asks me to marry her. I love having a little girl.
But, my nervousness had nothing to do with any of that. Obviously, all parents have an incredible amount of influence when it comes to shaping the character of their children. But, no matter how profoundly I impact Eden’s life, because she’s a girl, she can never be just like me. When we found out we were going to have a boy, this question came to mind…
That thought made me nervous. What if he talks like me? What if he thinks like me? What if he treats people like me? What if he handles his anger like me? What if he treats his wife the way I treat Katie? What if he interacts with his kids the way I do?
Those are difficult questions because they force me to be honest about who I really am. But, I think they’re good questions to ask because they force me to remember this…
One of my most important jobs as a parent is to make sure my children have a godly dad.
I find myself spending way too much time thinking about things that I have no control over. How will people respond? What will they think? If I say or do this or that, will he or she view me differently? That’s a maddening road to go down.
Palmer has been such a blessing in so many ways. He has reminded me not to worry about the things I have no control over but to focus my thoughts on becoming, by God’s grace, the kind of man I want him to be.